Marriage, sex and the forbidden dialogue in India
Being the second most populated country in the world, India clearly knows how to successfully reproduce. But being reproductively, and therefore, sexually active doesn’t mean people are completely content with their sexual experiences. Marriages in India often circle around family values, and rarely do they entertain individualism.
As arranged marriages are highly prevalent in Indian societies, it is not surprising for Indians to marry for the sake of their families and initiate a socially sanctioned sexual life. While searching for prospects, the mere topic of sexual compatibility does not even make it to the list of criterias to choose from. This is something that couples usually get to discover only after engaging in a marital union.
Prevalence of unhappy sexual life / How prevalent is the issue in India?
Do you know that one of the main reasons for unsuccessful marriages in India is sexual disaffection among couples? A 2015 national survey conducted by MediAngels on sexual dissatisfaction in India revealed that although most of the Indian couples led sexually active lives with their partners, a significant majority of 72% of women were sexually dissatisfied in their married lives. Interestingly, a whopping 98% of men claimed to have sexually satisfied marital lives. Traditionally, Indian marriages have always had their priorities laid out. Reproduction is given precedence over ensuring proper sexual health. In fact, the ideas of sexuality and being sexually active are, more often than not, clouded concepts in the minds of many Indian families.
Sexual discontentment in couples can arise out of a myriad of reasons
Sex is not just a physical act between two individuals, but also an extremely emotional commitment among couples. It is not to be taken for granted. But it usually is. Age, gender, thought-process, and family upbringing determine sexual activity among Indian couples to a large extent. Women and men are socially conditioned, and educated about sex differently. The older generation is usually assumed, and even expected to be sexually inactive, due to either imposed belief systems or physical limitations.
The root cause(s) of all problems
Two of the most common causes of sexual dissatisfaction in couples, especially in the initial phases of their married lives, could be lack of (self) awareness, and communication. It is essential to find out if your partner understands your, and also their own pleasures, fantasies, and boundaries. Having an open dialogue about what your partner wants, and finding a middle ground is equally important. There is a tendency in Indian couples to be hush-hush about their sexual life, not only in public, but also in their private settings.
Address the elephant in the room
It is quite common for males to experience premature ejaculation, as well as erectile dysfunction in their adult lives for which sexologist doctors can help. The probability only increases with age. Although it may not necessarily correlate with one’s sexual desires, it definitely interferes with achieving a sexually gratifying experience for the couple. Women often lose their appetite for sex with persisting discontentment, and men too become sexually reclusive if they continue to avoid reaching out. This repression directly affects a couple’s mental health, as well as marital compatibility, and may give way to depression, anxiety and low self-esteem. Research shows that marital relations become strained due to sexual deprivation, and may either end in divorce or search for partner(s) outside of marriage
Embrace yourselves and take the first step
This physical problem is not permanent, and can be easily cured. The real problem comes due to the culture of silence around it. Literature shows that males have a greater need to prove their masculinity through their sexuality, while women look for reassurance from their partners to embrace their sexuality as well as their femininity. Asking for help to improve one’s sexual life is not exactly given due consideration, until and unless there’s an urgency around it. Yet everyone would agree on the fact that fulfilling sexual desires greatly improves the quality of life. Personal satisfaction, in general, promotes the feeling of well-being and good health, no matter what your age or sex is. Having a satisfying sexual life in this otherwise busy and tough world can motivate people to stay happy and stable. So, reach out to a professional for help if you want to have a healthy relationship with your partner. There’s absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. You deserve it. Just because you’ve found someone to spend the rest of your life with doesn’t mean that you have to compromise on getting the most out of each other.
Enter Mojocare, at your service
It’s perfectly alright not to know how to lead a fulfilling sexual life with your partner. That’s what Mojocare is for. Any physical, mental or emotional issue can be easily addressed at Mojocare with utmost discretion and respect for privacy. It is an ideal platform to learn better ways of communicating with your partner. Mojocare has access to some of the best experts in the field to counsel you on leading a healthy and satisfied life with your spouse. If you are looking for professional medical prognosis, and treatment for specific issues that interfere with your desired sexual experiences, consult the reliable team of sexologist doctors at Mojocare to receive the best care and support possible.