Impotence or erectile dysfunction, whatever you call it, that has been keeping you off of pleasure and distracted at all times is a serious problem, especially, if you are about to tie the knot. Therefore, keeping impotency hidden or not revealing your problems to your partner, before marriage has consequences you may want to think about.
It may surprise you but hiding such facts has caused many couples marital discord and break-up, and left them in both mental and physical misery. According to Justice N. Kirubakaran, of the Madras High Court, 'if pre-marital clinical examination by doctors is done, it will not only prevent impotence from getting married but (also) prevent marriages of people suffering from dangerous and incurable diseases'. But still, whether or not impotency tests are mandatory before marriage is a debate going on!
While you may think, what happens in your bedroom is something you can solve on your own, let me make it clear to you that impotency is a common problem, and has affected at least one in ten men of all ages in all countries. So, if you'll try to force things up between you and your partner, you can permanently damage yourself.
While doctors are giving many reasons and the government evaluating the importance of tests of the dysfunctional penis that can be held responsible for a failed marriage, here are a few things you should know about impotence & its effects on your partner.
Did you miss out on the signs?
I shall be happy if you aren't one of those men feeling guilty or embarrassed about your situation, cause honestly there's nothing to feel so. Men in general, think they have lost some sort of masculinity when incapable of pleasing their partners or simply find it hard to talk about the situation.
However, the partners of ED sufferers, pay attention closely to the changes in your partner's behavior for dysfunctional erectile symptoms. If he tries to manipulate events so that he can avoid situations in which sexual intercourse may occur or stay up late at night so that you doze off before he goes to bed, these are the common examples, to begin with. Also, working longer hours than usual to use tiredness as an excuse to go to bed early or inviting friends and relatives to the house frequently to avoid privacy is signs of impotence at the early stages.
Men, including you, who's reading this right now, can use these excuses to avoid sex, but for how long do you think you can keep it hidden from your partner? It's an impossible and unnecessary thing to do to both yourself and your partner. Using excuses to delay the cure will only make things worse and not otherwise.
If the problem of impotence is a perpetual condition in your everyday life without you causing it, take medical help as early as possible. And for many reasons to be precise, getting a test done to check your testosterone, luteinizing hormone, prolactin, and thyroid hormone level should be mandatory. Both for males & females and to check their sexual competency, it is the right thing to do.
What causes Impotence in men?
There are plenty of causes of impotence, mainly divided broadly into physical or psychological causes.
If you have conditions of damaged nerves or blood vessels that supply the penis, such as diabetes, high blood pressure, atherosclerosis (furring up of the arteries, when the man has high cholesterol), and spinal injuries, it is classified as physical causes.
And for the psychological causes of impotence, “fear of failure” is the most prevalent one. This happens usually when you are preoccupied and not able to get an erection. Due to this reason, the act of sexual intercourse becomes unstable and uncomfortable. Other popular psychological causes of impotence encompass tiredness, remorse, distress, depression, and stress.
How does it affect your partner?
There is no obvious reaction from females to the dysfunctional erectile symptoms of their partners. Some may react aggressively where others may blame themselves for not being attractive enough for her partner's performance.
Sometimes, partners think that their better half is having an affair and by not knowing the cure, they behave more aggressively sexually to try to ‘win’ them back. Hence, it is a mixture of all kinds of emotions and reactions from females in such scenarios.
Throughout these years men have blamed their wives and women too, have blamed themselves, for every catastrophe that she isn't even a part of. Naturally, even in 2020, some women feel accountable for this issue: “It must be my fault he is having a problem. Perhaps I’m no longer sexually attractive to him” or “Perhaps my dislike for a lot of sexual experimentation has made him lose interest”.
Fortunately, the treatment can cure up to 95% of impotent men by a variety of different medications. Although not every treatment is favorable to all couples, you must discuss with your partner the treatments proposed and come to a decision together that will seem the most suitable for you both.